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A #Revelation in the Urgent Care Room

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So, this story starts like most others in my life – with something completely ridiculous happening.  Thursday, my washer broke and flooded the living room and foyer.  I, like an idiot, immediately ran to stop it and slipped.  My head ended up hitting the linoleum floor before the rest of my body but there was a crisis going on… so I got up and did everything I could to control the mess and get the leasing office over.

Around 4pm, I started feeling super woozy and my vision was all blurry, so I laid down.  At 6PM, Eurymakos came over to deliver me cigarettes because I didn’t feel safe driving and I was out.  He asked me to show him how to reset his mileage on Trip A, which I did, and I remember feeling like I was going to pass out leaning over his seat towards the driver seat.  He told me to go upstairs to sleep which I did.

At 8PM, Mike, who I’ve blogged about on numerous occasions texts me to ask me how I’m feeling.  After texting back and forth for a couple minutes, I start to feel nauseous and end up puking.  This prompts me to ask him to take me to the urgent care since none of my other friends / family were available to do so.  Mike, who is awesome, agrees provided he drives my car because I am not allowed to get sick in his car.

So we go to INOVA Urgent Care center right outside Reston Town Center which always serves you with amazing speed, and I’m trying to fill out insurance information so I have to text Eurymakos for our group policy number and such.  I’m telling Mike about my day over all and his first response to the fact that Eurymakos was at my house earlier and didn’t take me to urgent care then was, “You date the most horrible guys.”

I kind of laugh it off, saying, “Well, I mean, after I dated you it was all downhill from there.”

Most of the time I laugh Mike off when he’s hating on the guys I’m dating, because you never really take your ex’s criticisms of your currents seriously.  Before I get into the rest of this, I need to state, very clearly the following:  Mike and I will never date again.  We are much better off friends.  There are a lot of reasons for this but it’s mostly because I am looking for something that Mike isn’t.  (For example, the words monogamy and faithfulness don’t exist in his vocabulary.)

I’ve been thinking a lot about what Mike said though.  Zack was a given as far as dating downhill – that was a disaster and the worst period of my life thus far and I’m still trying to climb my way out of the rubble that is all of that mess in my head.

Eurymakos is different, but I can’t shake the feeling that he probably should have tried to get me to go to urgent care when he saw me at 6pm.  If the situations were reversed, it doesn’t matter what I was doing, that would have my first priority knowing what happened.  I can get over that though, the problem I’m running into is that I honestly don’t know if I had asked him at 6PM if he would have done it.  Could I have counted on him to take me?  I mean, he called dropping off the cigarettes a “medium to large favor” because it was out of his way.  What would a trip to the urgent care have been?

Maybe that’s what Mike is getting at when he keeps hating on my boyfriends.  Mike is the kind of guy who has done the following for me:

1.  Answered the phone with another girl over because I needed a place to crash.  (Sorry to the girl, have Mike tell you why I called, you’ll laugh I’m sure.)
2.  Took me to the urgent care when I needed it – and dealt with my mom on the phone.  (Which really, who does that?)
3.  LENT ME A CAR.  Yeah, he lent me a car for a week.

I mean really, what Mike is saying when he’s saying that all my other boyfriends suck is that I should totally be dating a guy who treats me like Mike does.

Who isn’t Mike.

But I mean really, where do I find one of those?

  • beeethanyj

    He should have taken you to urgent care, if not at least stayed with you to make sure you were ok. HUGE red flag…

    • http://www.howmanyfrogs.com/ Stephanie Dorman

      :-/ I mean, all they told me at Urgent Care was that I had a concussion, it was kind of a wasted trip.

      • beeethanyj

        But he didn’t care enough to stay with you and make sure you were ok. Or you know, just be a sweet guy and take care of you.

        You really shouldn’t ignore your intuition on this. :-

        • http://www.howmanyfrogs.com/ Stephanie Dorman

          I don’t know that it’s a lack of him caring, I think it’s a failure in communication. When I need something and communicate clearly he’s fairly responsive to it. I just don’t know if he would have taken me. That’s all.

          And I can’t really hold it against him because at 6 I wasn’t really planning to go to urgent care, I was just not feeling good.

          • beeethanyj

            Eh. I still think any decent guy would have been there taking care of you without you even having to ask. And the fact that you’re not even sure he would have taken you is pretty bothersome.

  • Mare

    Ok there are always two sides. On the one hand– yes…there are friends out there that would immediately jump to the task of taking another friend to the doctor for the symptoms described above.
    HOWEVER- unless you are a medical professional there is no way to tell if you hitting your head was the cause of the vomiting and ickiness in terms of it being a concussion. Could have been something you ate, could have been stress induced, there are so many things that do not involve urgent care centers that could have been going on (migraines for example can describe all of you symptoms above including blurry vision and of course your head would be hurting as you thwacked it on the floor).
    I’m not necessarily saying don’t be upset with this fella– I’m just saying that my mom was an X-Ray tech in an Urgent Care center and we grew up in a household where…if we weren’t clearly dying…we weren’t leaving the house. Maybe he grew up under similar circumstances? Maybe he assumed migraine and didn’t want to bug you but wanted you to get rest? Maybe he is just an asshole. Until you ask him what was going through his mind…it’s not fair to pass judgment.

    • http://www.howmanyfrogs.com/ Stephanie Dorman

      Ahhhh, my voice of reason. <3 I love you.

      My whole attitude towards it was that I wanted to sleep. And I wanted to rest. My bigger question is if I had asked if we would have taken me. That's the one I don't know the answer to.

      And unfortunately, given recent developments involving us not talking, I'll probably never get the answer to it.

  • http://www.facebook.com/casey.maloney.73 Casey Maloney

    to be fair though, did you ask him to take you? I know that you’re worried he wouldn’t have found it a suitable thing to do, but personally, i consider dropping off ciggs a much larger favor than taking someone to urgent care. i’m just trying to give the guy the benefit of the doubt. im actually a little more concerned that he couldn’t figure out that if you hit your head pretty hard that you should probably go see someone….

    • http://www.howmanyfrogs.com/ Stephanie Dorman

      No – I didn’t – that’s what I’m saying. I’m just concerned he wouldn’t have.

      Also, you’re right, bringing me cigarettes was a much bigger favor by virtue of it being a stupid favor. :)

  • brendanstallard

    “there was a crisis going on…”

    Stephanie,

    You’re not kidding. Any time you bang your head, 911 ought to be the first thought. Some wooziness later points like hell to concussion. Come on girl, stay alive.

    As to the men in your life, well, I don’t know you, but if I were one of those men I would consider it a moral, and very probably a legal responsibility to assist another human being in need of medical care and to do what I could.

    If they didn’t, you don’t need to be associating with them. End of.

    brendan

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