It’s a been a while since I talked about a relationship about here, and I totally tried to come up with another topic for today’s post, but since I was lacking in the inspiration field and the ex-boyfriend wouldn’t provide a guest post, I’m going to write about him. Seriously, the conversation went like this:
Stephanie Dorman: I don’t know what to blog about today, i want to blog about you but i promised i wouldn’t, lol
Eurymakos: Blog about this: http://www.zerohedge.com/news/2012-10-22/doug-caseys-top-five-reasons-not-vote
Stephanie Dorman: no, you should write about education tho because I got into it on facebook last night
Eurymakos: what in particular?
Stephanie Dorman:my post was: ”Okay, seriously people, I just want to say, the top preforming countries in education have higher class sizes and spend less per student than we do. It’s all about parental involvement and expectations. Throwing money at the problem doesn’t matter, you have to change the way people think about it.”
Eurymakos: sort of right
Stephanie Dorman: and then people got mad at me because I was against teachers
Eurymakos: that is not against teachers
Stephanie Dorman: Apparently it is
Eurymakos: No, just say, more money or not, it doesn’t hit the root of the problem. Teachers as a whole are driven people. If you think they do it for the money you are an ass clown. The problems that exist are not the teachers themselves (as a whole)
Stephanie Dorman: see you should write about it for a guest post
Eurymakos: ha, no idea when I could
Stephanie Dorman: FAIL! okay I guess i have to write about you then
(Full disclosure: Eurymakos actually used to be a teacher, so he can actually speak on this.)
So anyways, here I am, writing about him. Let me give the run down of what actually happened between us:
1. We had an awesome, fabulous, amazing trip to the beach. During this trip, the subject came up if I was really ready to be in a relationship following Zack, and what I wanted from said relationship if I was in it. He told me that if I wanted to leave, I should, and we could back to being friends.
2. The following Sunday I had a mental breakdown of some sort which caused to break up with him via text message.
3. I tried to take it back the next day, but he wouldn’t let me. His side is that if I did it once, I’ll do it again. My side is, I won’t because hello, I already made that mistake once and as Mary can attest to, I may do a lot of shit wrong, but I only do it wrong once.
So, here we are, two months later, in this weird sort of limbo state. He’s all like, “You’re my best friend and I don’t want to lose you,” and I’m all like, “I want to be in a relationship with you,” and then we end up in these arguments back and forth about how to resolve this situation. He tells me that if we get back together, he’ll just end up leaving or I’ll end up leaving and we’ll get into a huge fight and the friendship will be gone. I tell him that I can’t stand being in this limbo state where we act like we’re in a relationship in a lot of ways – but we’re not. (PS: Still exclusive to each other.) See, the real problem here is that we’re both actually the most stubborn people each other knows and we’re not willing budge.
Except – we are, and this is where the confusion comes in. I’ve actually gotten way better about telling him when he’s doing something I consider fucked up, and expressing my needs, which I was horrible at the first time around. What’s more? He’s actually responding to my requests and making progress on the things I’m complaining about. In essence we’re communicating and relating to each other in a more effective, but still relationship way than when we were actually in a relationship!
But, we’re still dealing with the fact that he says he just wants to be friends, and I’m all like, I need the official title.
This is probably the most frustrating situation I’ve been in relationship wise because it’s definitely not because we don’t care about each other, it’s just fear and stubbornness and general stupidity on both sides – but no one will move.
When I was talking to one of my friends about it last night, her response was: “that’s too bad, y’all have great chemistry”
It’s so true. UGH! Someone tell me the way out of this.