Back in March, I wrote a post about 5 Things Guys Do In Bed I Hate. At the time, I was fresh out of the relationship from hell that I had basically stayed in because I was afraid to sleep with anyone else. On my birthday, because my friend Mary was awesome enough to lend me her bed, and my boyfriend got me drunk enough that my insecurities were gone, I managed to overcome those phobia’s and get back in the saddle. (Oh - euphemisms.) I totally lucked out because the current boyfriend definitely has bedroom skills and if he wasn’t warming my bed every night, I would be recommending him to any ladies out there who need some tender love and care. (Sorry though ladies, you’ll have to wait until he kicks me to the curb or I die – I’m not giving this one up of my own accord.)
In honor of his awesome skills, and the fact that I feel I need to balance out the previous post with a positive one, I present to you 5 Things Guys Do In Bed I Love:
In my experience, in sexual relationships, there are four basic positions that people switch between… there’s girl on top, guy on top, doggy-style and lazy/cuddle sex. There are minor variations of each position which you can attempt, but one of the easiest way to spice up your sex life is to bring props into play. You can be vanilla in your props – maybe a feather or a some candle wax – or you can go all out with various toys such as an extra vibrator or anal beads – depends on the mood. The point is, I love a guy who isn’t afraid to use these things and makes me comfortable when we do use them – because let’s be honest, eventually the standard four positions gets boring.
4. Sex in Public Places
I’m not talking about getting down in the middle of isle 10 at Walmart, but there’s something infinitely more exciting about having sex in semi-public or public places where you run the risk of getting caught. For this, it doesn’t have to be full blown sex – it might just be an inappropriate graze while you’re grocery shopping, or maybe in a car ride… those kind of things will make me way more excited by the time we get back to the bedroom. If you have the chance though, anywhere that is semi-private – on a balcony, in a garage, on a deck, or something like the beach, a park, while you’re camping – any of those places can definitely spice things up. Therefore, I like a guy who isn’t afraid to take those risks.
Do I really need to explain this one? I like ropes.
2. Changing It Up
I don’t like sex where you’re in one position the entire time. Sure, every once and a while it’s nice for you to have a quickie when you’re bent over something – but if we’re having sex, I’d like to start one way, and finish another – preferably with something in between. Because you’re moving around, sex never gets boring – even with the four basic positions – as long as you’re getting transitions in – sex is always exciting.
1. Dirty talk
The dirtier you talk, the more excited I am. You want to tell me all the nasty things that you want me to do to you while we’re having missionary sex? Awesome. You want to tell me about the fantasy you had earlier in the day while you have me bent over the bed? Great! You want me to tell you how much I love various things you’re doing? I’m so in. There is nothing better than dirty talk during sex – and it’s interesting because in my entire sexual history, there have only been two guys who do it and do it well. It’s a lost art in my own humble opinion. Also guys, don’t be afraid to use vulgar language – for instance, if you call me a “dirty bitch” in the bedroom, I’m not going to stop what I’m doing and scream at you. I understand, as long as it’s used appropriately that when the terms slut, bitch, whore, etc come out (while you’re going in) that it’s not disrespectful, and honestly, I kind of like being treated that way sometimes. You know, it’s good to be bad.