Let me tell you about a game girls like to play, and I’ve come across it twice in the past few months and every time I do it makes me want to bash someones skull into a wall. I typically say it’s when someone is playing both sides against the middle… and here’s the definition from here:
Play both ends against the middle (American informal)
To try to make two people or groups compete with each other in order to get an advantage for yourself.
Like I said, two people have done this in the past couple months, and they typically get away with it because they have an excuse… you know what their excuse is?
“I don’t like confrontation, I’m just trying to be friends with everyone.”
You know what that actually means? While she’s sitting there talking shit about your ex to you, she’s also sitting there talking shit about you to your ex. And if your ex is a vindictive son of a bitch it’s always going to come out, because they’ll use it against you.
For instance, Zack decided to throw it my face that one of our mutual friends was constantly talking shit about me to him. Apparently, all she does is say that if she had to choose she’d pick him because he doesn’t make her choose. When I first got these lovely text messages from Zack, I went to her and asked her what the deal is, because hey, I go straight to the source. She denied – responding back that she knows I never made her choose, and she never said that. Then Zack hit me up with other stuff she was saying, and one of those was something I told her in confidence (and only her) which the only way Zack could have gotten it was if she told him – so I guess that blows her denials out of the water.
This is where you guys would be proud of me, because my first reaction, the thing I wanted to do straight with my gut was to send Zack every single text message (which I still have) of all the shitty things she’s said about him to me (of which there are many) but instead, my response back was, “I guess she’s not a good friend to either of us.”
But you know what, this is actually my fault, because this isn’t the first time this has happened with her. It’s the third over the course of six years – with three different people. As far as I’m concerned I’m taking a three strikes and you’re out kind of rule – because who needs someone in their life who acts like they’re your friend to your face, and talks shit about you the moment they get the chance? At least the shit talking I do on this blog is something that I’ve already said to their face by the time I write this.
So, I told her to kick rocks – and I’m okay with that. Actually, I’m kind of glad it happened this way because every time I come in contact with someone of this nature I realize how sad their lives, and the lives of the people who follow them around like lost puppies are. People should have the power of conviction and the courage to stand behind the words they’ve said – regardless of the pain it might cause someone else. People who do this – who play both sides against the middle and don’t own up to their own opinions, or even worse, only have a opinion that matches the person they are talking to at the moment – are wastes of the air the rest of us breathe.
But let me drop notice on everyone, she’s the only one who got three strikes. The rest of y’all are only getting one.