One of the most frequent search terms coming into my site is some variation of “I Hate Dooce”. I couldn’t figure out why people were coming to my site looking for people who hated Dooce. Who was Dooce? What do people hate her? Why are they coming here? Turns out Dooce is some chick named Heather B. Armstrong who has a website Dooce.com. Apparently, she is pretty much alternately loved and hated by the internet.
In fact, I am not the only person out there who has problems with people coming to my website looking for people who hate Dooce. Most of them get here because for some reason, my post about how I am incredibly jealous of the bloggess is titled “I Hate The Bloggess” and apparently Dooce and the Bloggess are one in the same to google. (I’d love to hear what the Bloggess’s reaction to that.)
Unfortunately, this entire search to discover who Dooce was led to something a little depressing for me. You see, I clicked on her about page, and I discovered that she started her blog in May of 2001 – so I went to her archives, and I found this post, which is totally inconsequential to most people, but set off fireworks of blinding jealousy in my head:
I wonder if men ever get as bloated as a sinking ship sending out mayday signals.
Will Liam Gallagher love me as much as I love him?
You see back when most of you were on AOL or CompuServe, I was begging my Dad to buy me a domain, and back then, domains were no joke, they were $50 and you HAD to buy them from Network Solutions because that was the only option. Finally my father gave in, and purchased me delightz.net, and I started using it for three purposes:
- Part of delightz.net was an NSYNC fansite
- Part of delightz.net was my personal blog
- I also hosted some of my family and friends, like Lindsay on there
The important part about all of this is, all of this happened before Dooce even started her blog – in fact – by the time her blog was only 5 months old I was featured on the cover of the Washington Post because of an article about cam-girls (what you know today as bloggers) and I had a very, very, loyal and strong following. I was asked to interviewed by 60 Minutes (although I declined) and I had various sponsorship’s for my blog. Why does all this matter?
Because back then, when I was getting all the traffic, and Dooce wasn’t, I was the one who linked to her – regarding a mutual love of Liam Gallagher.
Our blogging paths have obviously taken two different roads. She has turned her blog into a money making machine that can support her family of four, while I have this blog, which barely gets any traffic. She was invited to the Whitehouse to talk about working from home, while I just had a job at one point where I had access to the Whitehouse. She is somewhere under 20,000 for her global Alexa rankings – while I am somewhere in the 2 millions. Obviously, she did it better than me.
(Not to say that I’m horrible at blogging – I just made the choice of going to livejournal for college and most of after that because it’s difficult to have a publicly facing blog and stayed employed, as Dooce well knows.)
Although, I can’t help but wonder – couldn’t I be Dooce? If I had it to over again, would I have shut down delightz? Or could I be using the blog to make enough money so that I didn’t have to work? I probably would do it all the same, blogging at that level stops you from having a job, or really much a life outside the blog. Plus, I like the ability to walk away from it every once and a while when I need to. If it was my only income I wouldn’t be able to do that.
And Dooce – I just wanted to say you’re welcome for that original link love.
How long have you been blogging?